You’ve seen your grandma and granddad’s love for each other get stronger over the years. But what do happy couples do that helps them stay together forever? What’s their secret?
When you fall in love, your dream is for that love to last forever. There’s nothing worse than falling head over heels for someone, only to end up heartbroken and confused about what went wrong, endlessly wondering where you went wrong and how to go back to how things used to be.
There are many things that are key to a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Ensuring it goes the distance means knowing what these things are, and putting time and effort into applying them.
If you’ve met the man you want to spend the rest of your days with, let’s take a look at 15 good habits of couples who stay together forever.
#1. Never underestimate the value of asking your partner how his day went.
Niceties don’t become any less nice just because they become routine. At the end of the day, even if you felt like no one cared about anything you did, at least you know your partner will not only care but want to know details.
#2. Never Forget To Be Affectionate
How many times have you got up late for work, rushed your coffee down your neck, jumped in the shower, grabbed your keys and stormed out of the house without so much as a “good morning” to your partner? There definitely wasn’t a kiss goodbye!
In the hectic maelstrom of modern life, it’s easy for us to forget the little things – such as the kiss goodbye. However, coupes who stay together don’t forget this. They’re always ready to greet their partner in the morning with a kiss, and often with coffee and breakfast, too.
Never forget affection. It helps you both to retain that sense of closeness, and there’s no such thing as not having enough time. And if you’re not in the mood? Touching your partner will put you in the mood.
#3. Some fights are just fights.
They don’t have to be deal breakers. You can be madly in love with a person and still be mad at that person. Fights don’t have to spell The End. Couples that stay together choose the relationship over the conflict.
#4. Accept that relationships come with obligations.
You might not want to do everything your partner wants you to do with him — work events, seeing a band he likes, even errands — but you also know it makes him happy to have you by his side, which makes doing those things totally worth it.
#5. But be honest about which events you feel strongly that your partner attend.
Not everything can be a must. He knows to tell you that it’s really important you attend Passover seder every year but will live if you decline an invite to his friend’s Super Bowl party. You’re both fair about it.
#6. Shift focus to what your partner does right.
For a good relationship don’t keep bringing up the wrong things your partner does. Instead, focus on the good stuff.
#7. Little surprise purchases go a long way.
Does your partner love mint chocolate chip ice cream? Picking some up while you’re at the store shows you were thinking of him even while going about your boring everyday chores like restocking the milk.
#8. Eat dinner together.
Eating dinner together is important if you want to keep your relationship strong. It might sound like such a trivial thing, but it lets you both enjoy your food while talking about things. You could catch up on each others’ day, and just generally be happy that you’re here together.
We often find it hard to spend time with our partner as it is. Why let this opportunity slip through the net?
#9. Don’t force group or double dates when all couples aren’t friends.
You don’t have to share the same friends. It’s OK to still go out one-on-one with your girlfriends, even if you all have significant others. The guys don’t have to be friends just because you are, and not every conversation is a group conversation anyway.
#10. Be sympathetic when your significant other is sick.
Maybe it means canceling dinner plans and picking up soup. Maybe it means running to the drugstore for more cough drops. Don’t complain. No one gets sick on purpose, and if the situation were reversed, you know he’d take care of you.
#11. Respond to each other’s texts, calls, etc.
No screening when it comes to your significant other. If he needs to get in touch for whatever reason, that should be a priority.
#12. Choose not to fight when you travel.
The luxury hotel you booked turned out to be not so luxury at all. Or he forgot to pack your toiletry kit like he said he would. You can get cranky and be That Couple having it out at the airport, or you can realize you’ll have a good story or inside joke in the future.
#13. Always go on dates toghether
To keep the excitement in the relationship, and to give the two of you something to look forward to, never forget how fun dates are. Act like you’re just starting out again. Plan trips, meals, movies and board games.
#14. Don’t make fun of each other
Even if you’re “just joking”, imagine how he’d feel if he heard you. The most important word to keep in mind here is respect – and keeping the respect in your relationship is crucial to it surviving.
#15. Say “I love you” without restraint
When it comes to the 3 little words, more is always better than less. This is one phrase you can’t say too much to each other.